Don’t you just love having the same conversation over and over? Yes? Good, read on.
A little bit ago we were again discussing how things work around the dishevelled domicile, in terms of who is in charge. Somehow the topic came up in chat a day or two ago with a pal and in that conversation I finally landed on what I think is a reasonably good analogy.
My man is the head of state but it is a puppet government. I’m delighted to leave him all the policy issues, diplomatic responsibilities, and parliamentary procedures as well as the effort that goes into maintaining a government. Rather him than me!
His decisions can fall anywhere within my fairly permissive (nearly Sinatra Doctrine) policies— and there is pax domina.
February 16th, 2012 at 3:15 pm
Research has shown that the couples reporting the most satisfaction with their relationships are those in which the husband will defer to his wife’s “last word” if she chooses to have one.
That is, in those matters in which she has no opinion, the husband simply does whatever is necessary. In the rest of the circumstances, if he defers to or accommodates her opinion, then the overall satisfaction level is higher for the both of them.
February 17th, 2012 at 12:28 am
Yes,
I believe that statistic is true,
because it confirms what I choose to believe.
February 17th, 2012 at 10:34 am
I see what you did there.
I really should look that one up, though. It’s a few years old, and there were some complaints that it seemed to reinforce the old “Yes, dear” mindset, but hell, sometimes a stereotype can be true.
February 18th, 2012 at 2:01 am
I should have known you’d catch that my tongue was in my cheek a bit there.
You are right though, stereotypes can sometimes be true. It makes sense that being willing to listen to your partner on matters of importance to her would be a pattern found in healthy relationships.
February 16th, 2012 at 7:55 pm
My favorite part of this is still the use of the the word puppet, and the image it evokes.
February 17th, 2012 at 12:30 am
The fun part is that you can get his mouth moving without having to get very far in at all!
February 16th, 2012 at 9:45 pm
Hera will be very proud of u.
February 17th, 2012 at 12:35 am
Excellent, but I’ve always preferred Hecate and Odyne.
February 17th, 2012 at 11:29 am
Bad move! Remember what she did when Paris ignored her? And how she turned Hecate into a cat?
Odyne? I tried, but i can’t picture u to deliver pain on her scale. U r way too delicate and sensitive for that. Maybe it’s just ur fantasy? Or……perhaps u had to suffer a lot urself and felt hurt beyond belief? If so, do u have many scars?
February 17th, 2012 at 12:57 pm
Now see, mythology can be so convoluted. In the mythology I know, Galinthias was turned to a cat by Hera and Hecate took pity on her. In any case, my preference for Hecate might be related in part to her Roman name, Trivia, but also, she is the titan goddess of the sky, the sea, and the earth. The Olympian nonsense was nothing to Hecate, an approach I appreciate. Hera, to my mind, was far too petty and insecure. Zeus, her husband/brother, and his wandering eye occupied far too much of her attention. Every story tells of her reacting rather than acting. Yes, I prefer Hecate.
I rather love the fact that you’ve described me as delicate and sensitive. That is awesome.
Scars? Oh yes, physical and emotional, I’ve some of each. However, while I enjoy worshiping Odyne with my willing fucktoy, I do not scar him. Pain is a means to an end in our rituals, and that means intensity and duration are less important to me than desired effect. I don’t need to be the personification of pain, Odyne can handle that. We will just worship in our way.
February 17th, 2012 at 1:17 pm
Convoluted indeed. Mythology is like religion. All sprouted from the fantasies of men. Better to stay far from both in r/l.
So no branding in ur place?
February 17th, 2012 at 1:26 pm
The only smell of burning flesh will be from the dinner, thanks.
February 17th, 2012 at 1:42 pm
Who’s cooking?
February 17th, 2012 at 5:59 am
I like your lovely family portrait…just I would add a little remark.
In the relation between a couple of lovers you can try to put rules, you can create your personal kingdom…the problem is when the children arrive.
A family is not a land that you can occupy, it’s not a close space…It was…now I hope this time it is over.
I like to think family is more a sort of white paper where lines are drawn…some line are strong then others, some are more clear, some are more colored…
In any case I’m sure your familiy is a very nice painting.
February 17th, 2012 at 1:06 pm
It is true that adding children makes for a very different dynamic.
I’ve teenagers and must say, I am looking forward to the day when our home is once again our personal kingdom.
February 17th, 2012 at 3:50 pm
Mines are teenagers too…dirty beatiful lines running and shouting in the appartment…but I am not american, I live in the old europe and I am a sentimental chap …and I am afraid of the moment they will live home.
P.S.
I love mythologie, and I appreciate people who use it to evocate their sensations/sentiment/emotions…but I was born in a island in rhe mediterrean sea
February 17th, 2012 at 12:18 pm
Once I heard a man say that in his marriage he made all of the important decisions and his wife made all of the unimportant ones. He decided things like: how to solve world hunger, find peace in the middle east, cure cancer, etc. She decided the unimportant things like: which house they should buy, how much money should be spent on food, what they would do that weekend. And so forth…
February 17th, 2012 at 12:46 pm
U heard that? R/l? With ur own ears? Wow! U must be one of the chosen ones. Poor me only could read that old joke on the internet.
February 17th, 2012 at 1:03 pm
Hee hee,
as long as that works them, right?
February 17th, 2012 at 2:18 pm
Yeah so true…I mean the most important decison a woman makes is what colour shoes to wear…. :sigh:
February 18th, 2012 at 12:21 am
And which of the riding crops to use
February 18th, 2012 at 1:53 am
CQ,
and don’t forget which horse’s ass on which to use said crop