I have, in just over a month, posted 23 interviews. I am so glad the guys represented here agreed to be interviewed. There is a lot of information in those posts so I am going to do a very brief overview here, in hopes it will make it easier to find relevant content. In doing this I am going to be reducing entire interviews down to a few words. It’s not going to capture the magic, sorry, but it is really just a sniff in hope you will click the link and head over there for a taste.
**Interviewees, if you have an objection to how I summarize your answer below, please email me, I am very willing to alter the wording to reflect more accurately on our interview and you as a person**
Single, submissive, kinky, and committed to remaining a virgin til marriage, involved in online kink community.
*Point of interest for me — how to find someone with a compatible power dynamic kink when that isn’t the primary criterion.
Interview 2 ~ Anonymous
Perv next door, no kink community ties, submissive within one relationship.
*Point of interest for me — his submission is very much part of his relationship.
Anti-label avenger, married, blogger, chastity kinkster, all-around awesome.
*Point of interest for me — the discussion about the devaluation of submissive men.
Married, private kinkster, into submission and CBT.
*Point of interest for me — the discussion in comments about kinks melding and altering in long-term relationships.
Blogger, submissive man, married, analyzer of kink related ideas, research, etc.
*Point of interest for me — discussion of imagery and kink research
Interview 6 ~ Anonymous
Submissive within current relationship, hates the label, concise.
*Point of interest for me — discussion of labels and terminology.
Submissive, involved in the online kink community, married, into teasing and denial.
*Point of interest for me — conversation about stealth submission and service kinks
Interview 8 ~ Anonymous
Married, submissive, masochistic, not involved in the community currently but a fan.
*Point of interest for me — the enthusiasm about the kink community.
Sub, married, maker of awesome dungeon equipment, involved in online kink community.
*Point of interest for me — ok, he MAKES toys!
Interview 10 ~ JB
Masochist, subb-ish, into CBT, not involved in kink community.
*Point of interest for me — enthusiasm for sadistic ladies.
Interview 11 ~ Richard
Submissive, single, humiliation kink, into Total Power Exchange™, no kink community ties.
*Point of interest for me — Conway Twitty’s song Comfy and Cozy made it into the comment section, so kinky!
Married submissive man, blogger, chastity kinkster, wife is keyholder.
*Point of interest for me — his views about his submission being a facet within his relationship- intimacy based.
Interview 13 ~ Anonymous
Married submissive man, no kink community ties, service kink and into orgasm control.
*Point of interest for me –discussion in comment section about service oriented and related kink.
Interview 14 ~ Anonymous
Submissive, in a relationship, exploring masochism, involved in online kink community.
*Point of interest for me — his patient approach in introducing kink into relationship and his use of stories to do so.
Interview 15 ~ John Doe
Submissive, in a relationship, into T&D, no ties to kink community.
*Point of interest for me –answer regarding perception of male submission in Europe and the US.
Interview 16 ~ Weezie
Submissive, in a relationship, service kink, somewhat involved in the kink community.
*Point of interest for me –continued discussion of service oriented submission in comment section.
Interview 17 ~ Severin
Submissive, single, no kink community ties.
*Point of interest for me — “…kink would make my joy complete.”
Interview 18 ~ Fred Robot
In a relationship, kinky, no kink community ties.
*Point of interest for me — insightful commenters
Submissive, in a relationship, blogger, fetishist, considering involvement in kink community.
*Point of interest for me — discussion of collaring and what that means to him.
Submissive, in a relationship, blogger, no kink community ties, into Total Power Release.
*Point of interest for me –discussion of submissive men being devalued and gender expectations.
Interview 21 ~ Celtic Queen’s sub
Submissive, married, blogger, not involved in local kink community.
*Point of interest for me –insight into a loving female led relationship.
Submissive, in a relationship, involved online and in local kink community.
*Point of interest for me — further discussion of submissive men being devalued and gender role issues.
Submissive, masochistic, married, chastity kinkster, wife holds key, blogger, no ties to local kink community.
*Point of interest for me — even more interesting stuff about submissive men being devalued.
Added 9/2/11
Interview 24 ~ Satan
*Point of interest for me — the wide variety of interests in people who identity in some way with the kink community.
Added 12/1/11
Interview 25 ~ Strongnsubmissive
*Point of interest for me — his perspective on making the choice to live vanilla because of values and priorities.
Interview 26 ~ Dave
*Point of interest for me– how fulfilled he and his wife are in their lifestyle without local BDSM community involvement.
July 19th, 2011 at 12:19 am
Thanks so much for doing the interviews, DD, and thanks to the men, of course, for contributing. It was great to hear so many different voices on what ended up being a pretty broad topic.
Ferns
July 19th, 2011 at 10:04 am
I had so much fun doing these!
So many of the guys really don’t fit the negative stereotypes about submissive men at all (which most of us already know, but it is nice to see it in black and white). I am thinking I might try running more interviews periodically, recurring feature.
There are lots of submissive men with worthwhile things to say and the skills to say them articulately. I am so glad some of them agreed to say a few of those things here.
July 19th, 2011 at 12:02 pm
I’d echo Ferns here. Well done for all your work DD, you could have single handledly turned the tide.
And well done for the guys for stepping up to the plate and being heard.
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